Really Great Song Neck Tingle

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If it looks good, you’ll see it;
If it sounds good, you’ll hear it,
if it’s marketed right, you’ll buy it;
But…if it’s real, you’ll feel it.
–Kid Rock

Have you ever been driving on a warm, sunny day and one of your favorite songs comes on the radio? You turn it up, real loud. You rock out. Sometimes, when this happens to me, I get a shiver, a tingle, right at the back of my neck. Sometimes it travels down my spine. No, it’s not meningitis. It is what Kid Rock means above. You can FEEL how good the music is.

I love that feeling. Below are some songs that may have given me that feeling at one time or another.

Notice Me-Nikki
Disarm-Smashing Pumpkins
The Freshmen-Verve Pipe (Saw this performed live.)
Neon Moonlight-Rosco Martinez
Nothing Compares 2 U-Sinead O’Connor
Insensitive-Jann Arden
American Life in the Summertime-Francis Dunnery
Live & Learn-Joe Public
Damn I Wish I Was Your Lover-Sophie B. Hawkins
Regulate-Warren G. & Nate Dogg (R.I.P. Nate Dogg)
Connected-Stereo MCs
Stay-Lisa Loeb
Stay-Shakespeare’s Sister
Come To My Window-Melissa Etheridge
Desperately Wanting-Better Than Ezra
Texas in 1880-Foster & Lloyd
You Don’t Even Call Me By My Name-David Allan Coe (Saw this performed live.)

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Sh*t My Mom Says

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My mom is rude to me. Like, all the time. And I can’t call her on it or tell her to stop because then she will be like “I can’t say anything to you. You always take it the wrong way.” and start crying. I am the only frickin’ family she has and her primary mode of transportation. You would think she could be just a little nicer to me.

My mother is the most negative person I have ever met. She also has a very powerful law of attraction. In 2006, she was diagnosed with stage four kidney cancer and told she had two months to live. She had the kidney removed, had virtually no treatment, and is still here cancer free today. I believe she only survived because she wanted to be alive longer so she could continue to find things to be miserable about.

When my husband asks me what she says to get me so mad and fired up, I usually can’t remember. But with texting, it is much easier to have examples handy. (I taught my mom to text so that I could talk to her on the phone for shorter periods of time and less frequently.)

Whoops…I think my blog might have just turned into therapy.

Examples from Texts

2011
MOM: Warn me if you are going to find religion.

2/12/12
MOM: Since you haven’t bothered to call me back I have to assume you don’t give a shit that I fell on the hard floor in a public place humiliating & hurting myself. 8:09PM
ME: I couldn’t get your voicemail until 8pm & you told me you were fine. 8:10PM
MOM: I believe I said I survived not that I was fine. It scared the crap out of me. I shook much for 5 min after & lightly thereafter. I hurt & did laundry. 8:17PM

2/15/12
MOM: Do you want to watch Columbo? 3:00PM
ME: No. 3:21PM
MOM: I take offense that everything I like you automatically reject. Everything 3:41PM
ME: I like Scott Hamilton. 3:42PM

2/15/12
MOM: Maybe before the end of Feb we could go in am to Martins & then have lunch. We might even do Bobs. Dutch of course. What think? 5:24PM
ME: It will probably have to be after J gets his truck fixed. Not sure when that will be. 5:26PM
MOM: Didn’t know it was sick. What minimum $400 part does it need? 5:30PM
ME: Not sure. 7:30PM
MOM: So J goes to work with the only working vehicle & you are home all day with the baby & can’t go anywhere. Welcome to the life of a 50’s housewife. Ha. 8:58PM
ME: I have nowhere to go anyway. 9:16PM
MOM: Depressing isn’t it? 9:19PM
ME: No it’s nice 7:07AM
MOM: Don’t start giving Tupperware parties 9:34PM
ME: I can do whatever the fuck I want to do. 7:07AM

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HOMEFRONT: The Greatest TV Show Ever


Homefront is the greatest show ever. It had quality writing and acting. It won a 1992 People’s Choice Award for Favorite New Dramatic Series and a 1993 Writers Guild of America Award for Original Long Form. Do you recognize the names Kyle Chandler and John Slattery? Chandler won an Emmy Award for Outstanding Lead Actor in a Drama Series in 2011 for Friday Night Lights. Slattery has been nominated for an Emmy for Outstanding Supporting Actor in a Drama Series for Mad Men for four years straight. If you ever watched Homefront, you would know that these talented men deserved those awards back in 1992.

Homefront was a drama that ran on ABC from 1991-1993. It centered on the lives of the rich Sloan family, the working class Metcalf family, and the black Davis family in fictional River Run, Ohio in 1945. The pilot episode featured family members returning home after WWII, some in better condition than others. The show was about WWII, unionization, civil rights, baseball, women’s rights, polio, religion, the holocaust, life, death, and relationships. I was only fifteen when I stumbled across the pilot episode, but I knew this was great television. (And that Kyle Chandler was freaking hot!) No one else I knew watched this show. Which is a shame, and probably why the series had an untimely demise.

Homefront’s beauty was in how the acting, writing, and authentic hairstyles/sets/costumes/cars all melted together to make you feel like you were using a time machine to peak into someone’s window. I liked it when they would have each of the families having the same argument at the same time, all intercut together. It showed we all have beauty and prejudices in us. And that we are all not as different inside as our skin or wallets might show us to be.

Jeff (Kyle Chandler) and Ginger (Tammy Lauren) were my favorite characters on the series. I loved watching them bicker. They got together out of loneliness at Jeff’s brother’s wedding, both having to see the people they loved with someone else. They dated, became engaged, broke up, and got back together during the two seasons of the series. The series finale featured their wedding.

I think part of why Homefront went off the air was because ABC didn’t market it correctly. I am sure some people were scared off by the fact it took place in the 1940’s. ABC needed to push the fact that it was a soap opera with themes that transcended what decade they were taking place in. And they should have played up all the attractive men and women in the cast. ABC did do one thing right. They told the creators that the show would be cancelled enough in advance that they could create a satisfying ending.

This is a postcard postmarked March 2, 1993 that I received from ABC in response to a letter I had sent. The series finale aired April 26, 1993.


If Homefront came on today, I think it could have had three or four seasons at least. Homefront had a small but rabid fan base. The kind of fan base today that can create a big stink and following on the Internet. But in 1993, most people either hadn’t heard of the Internet or didn’t know how to use it. I wouldn’t use it for another year. The sad truth is that Homefront has never been available on VHS/DVD/streaming. I have written many a letter over the years trying to rectify this injustice to no avail (availability, that is). To get a taste of Homefront yourself, you will have to hunt down various clips on YouTube.

Think of the success Mad Men is having now. Others have tried to duplicate it’s vibe of a time in the past, such as Pan-Am and Playboy Club. They both failed. Homefront was the original.

It was a show before it’s time.

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I am a Shipper, and I didn’t even know it.

I have watched Fringe from the beginning. Sometimes the science-fiction element begins to lose me. But I continued to watch because I like Joshua Jackson. And when it started to look like Olivia and Peter could be love interests, I totally rooted for it. Week after week, I found myself frustrated that the writers teased me, and kept them apart yet again.

I often find myself in this situation. I refer to it as the “Moonlighting Effect”. On Moonlighting, David and Maddie got together in the third season. In that case, it ended up pretty much killing the show. I feel like because of that instance, TV writers across the country are now afraid to ever get their male and female leads together. They are so afraid to lose viewers. Well, I am here to tell you, you will lose viewers if you continue to keep characters apart!

I am also rooting for the leads on Castle and Bones to get together. (On Bones, they finally have—thank God! But I feel totally cheated out of seeing their early relationship: post-sex to birth of baby. Anyone who has been in a relationship knows that the first six months or year together is the most fun and exciting.) I have felt SO passionate about this for years, with many shows. I never dreamed it had a name. Or a presence on the Internet. I just always thought I was being a silly romantic recovering TV addict.

Then in my Entertainment Weekly a few weeks ago, they had an article on “shippers”. I started reading it. I had no idea such a thing existed. I had no idea that I WAS ONE OF THEM!!! According to the article “Just Do It” (click here for a related article), the word shipper is “Derived from the word ‘relationship’, a fan who’s deeply invested in romance – or the possibility of romance – between two characters. Shipping runs the gamut between ‘just having fun’ [to] ‘scary-stalker serious’.” I learned from the article that hardcore shippers talk online about their passion, or even write fan-fiction about it. I don’t go that far. But for the right TV-potential-romance, I could. The only time I ever wrote fan-fiction was for the Fearless series of Young Adult books. (More on Fearless in a future post.)

The article mentioned all the shows I have mentioned above: Fringe, Moonlighting, Castle, Bones. Probably the audience for most of these series are drawn to the tangible “will they or won’t they” element because they lack enough romance in their real lives. Why make the audience suffer more? I can be a control freak. I totally should have become a TV writer like I dreamed, so that I could control all these characters and make them do what I want them to.

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I <3 DJs

Back in 1990, I would listen every night to the Live 5 at 8 Countdown with Dave Fuller on 92.5 KISS-FM. (I am so old, I remember before they were called KISS-FM.) I would listen on my awesome stereo AM/FM cassette player mini boom box from Sears. (I still have it. The best radio I have ever owned.) I had a total crush on the DJ, Dave Fuller. I still do. Well, a crush on his voice. I had no idea what he looked like. And I wouldn’t know for another 22 years.

I loved the song “Nothing Compares 2 U” by Sinead O’Connor. And it was VERY popular on 92.5, since that is the station all the school girls listened to. I had a knack. I would call about 15 minutes before he did the number one song on the countdown. I knew the number one song would be “Nothing Compares 2 U”. I knew that with the number one song, Dave Fuller always played a phone call. And I knew that he pre-taped the calls. There were multiple times that Dave played MY call on the air.*

*Here is a transcript of one of the calls. I would totally put an audio clip in this post, but I don’t want to get sued:

DF: The coveted event.
The sacred moment.
The thrill you have been waiting all day for.
The number one song on the Live 5 at 8 Countdown.
ME: I wanna request, um, Nothing Compares 2 U for the countdown.
DF: That’s what they all say.
ME: [Awkward teenage giggle.]

I had such a big crush on Dave. I believe I have his birthday written down somewhere in my house. That is probably when I decided that Dave was such a cool name, although that is not the whole reason my dog is named Dave. If I had had a drivers’ license, I totally could have gone to remote broadcasts and stalked him. But by the time I did, he was off to another radio station.

So, I kept listening to 92.5 and I developed a crush on Kurt Kruse (no idea on the spelling) and Billy Michaels. I used to tape the disc jockeys talking to one another at shift change. I actually got to meet Kurt when I got to do a show called “Look Ma, I’m on KISS-FM” where I got to play DJ for an hour on a Friday night when no one listens. But it was right before high school graduation, so I never found out if anyone listened and thought I was ultra-cool. (Or ultra-dork.) I wrote an outline for a story about Billy Michaels, but I have never fleshed out the full story.

Probably my obsession with the DJs (and being totally clueless as to what I wanted to do in life) is why I studied Radio & TV Broadcasting in college. Not that I have ever actually used my degree to go into that field, because I have not.

The other day I looked, and Dave Fuller is now on a station in Detroit. He even has a Facebook page, which means I got to see what he looks like. My 8th grade self was so excited:) [Awkward teenage giggle.]

Sorry for all of the nostalgia lately. I am in the process of converting all my audio cassette tapes to mp3 files. Sometimes technology can be great.

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